SELF CARE:  OTHER PEOPLE MATTER
 
finding and improving relationships @ work, @ play, @ love,
while volunteering, and more
B.F.F. : a Memoir of Friendship Lost and Found

by Christie Tate
 
After more than a decade of dead-end dates and dysfunctional relationships, Tate was giddily in a new relationship. At a recovery meeting, a friend gave her a gentle suggestion: perhaps now would be the perfect time to examine why friendships gave her trouble.
Be Not Afraid of Love : Lessons on Fear, Intimacy, and Connection

by Mimi Zhu
 
This book explores the intersections of love and fear in self-esteem, friendship, family dynamics, and romantic relationships, and extends out to its effects on society and the greater political realm.
Compassionate Leadership : How to do Hard Things in a Human Way

by Rasmus Hougaard
 
In hard times like these, leaders need to make hard decisions--deliver negative feedback, make difficult choices that disappoint people, and in some cases lay people off. How do you do the hard things that come with the responsibility of leadership while remaining a good human being and bringing out the best in others?
8 Rules of Love : How to Find it, Keep it, and Let it Go
 
by Jay Shetty
 
 Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we're often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. Until now.  Instead of presenting love as an ethereal concept or a collection of cliches, Shetty lays out specific, actionable steps to help you develop the skills to practice and nurture love better than ever before.
Find Your People : Building Deep Community in a Lonely World

by Jennie Allen
 
You were created to play, engage, adventure, and explore-with others. In this book, you'll discover exactly how to dive into the deep end and experience the full wonder of community. Because while the ache of loneliness is real, it doesn't have to be your reality.
Forgive : Why Should I and How Can I?

by Timothy Keller
 
Forgiving anyone in a meaningful way is one of the hardest things a person has to do. If you do not, resentment and vengeance begin to consume you. It is nearly impossible to move past transgression without forgiveness, but few people have the resources and the tools to forgive others fully and move on with their lives.
The Good Life : Lessons From the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness

by Robert J. Waldinger
 
What makes a life fulfilling and meaningful? The simple but surprising answer is: relationships. The stronger our relationships, the more likely we are to live happy, satisfying, and healthier lives. In fact, the Harvard Study of Adult Development reveals that the strength of our connections with others can predict the health of both our bodies and our brains as we go through life.
Joy at Work : Organizing Your Professional Life

by Marie Kondō
 
The workplace is a magnet for clutter and mess. Who hasn't felt drained by wasteful meetings, disorganized papers, endless emails, and unnecessary tasks? These are the modern-day hazards of working, and they can slowly drain the joy from work, limit our chances of career progress, and undermine our well-being.
There is another way. 
The Life Council : 10 Friends Every Woman Needs

by Laura Tremaine
 
This book will give every woman the help she needs to think about friendships in a new way and find true connection, freedom, and joy in her relationships.
 
The Light We Give : How Sikh Wisdom Can Transform Your Life

by Simran Jeet Singh
 
Singh delved deep into the Sikh teachings that he grew up with and embraced the lessons to seek the good in every person and situation and to find positive ways to direct his energy. These Sikh tenets of love and service to others have empowered him to forge a life of connection and a commitment to justice that have made him a national figure in the areas of equity, inclusion, and social justice.
The Lonely Hunter : How Our Search for Love is Broken

by Aimâee Lutkin
 
Why, when there are more unmarried adults than ever before, is there so much pressure to couple up? Why is everyone so uncomfortable around single people? Why does it seem like your real life can't start until you meet The One? And is it possible to be single without being lonely?
Losing Our Minds : the Challenge of Defining Mental Illness

by Lucy Foulkes
 
Public awareness of mental illness has been transformed in recent years, but our understanding of how to define it has yet to catch up. Too often, psychiatric disorders are confused with the inherent stresses and challenges of human experience. The real question in need of answering is: how should we distinguish between 'normal' suffering and actual illness?
Missing Each Other : How to Cultivate Meaningful Connections

by Edward Brodkin
 
With all that's going on in the world and the never-ending demands of our daily lives, most of us are too stressed and preoccupied to be able to really listen to each other. Often, we misunderstand or talk past each other. Many of us are left wishing that the people in our lives could really listen, understand, and genuinely connect with us. 
The New Normal : a Roadmap to Resilience in the Pandemic Era

by Jennifer Ashton
 
As we've all learned ... the new normal isn't just about wearing masks and standing six feet apart -- it's about recognizing how to stay safe and sane in a world that is suddenly unfamiliar. And no one understands this evolving landscape better than Dr. Jennifer Ashton ...ABC's Chief Medical Correspondent.
Nobody Knows the Trouble I've Seen : the Emotional Lives of Black Women

by Inger Burnett-Zeigler
 
This informative guide to healing, is life-changing, showing Black women how to prioritize the self and find everyday joys in self-worth, as well as discover the fullness and beauty within both her strength and vulnerability.
The Power of Awe : Overcome Burnout & Anxiety, Ease Chronic Pain, Find Clarity & Purpose -- In Less Than 1 Minute Per Day : Introducing the Scientifically Proven A.W.E. Method

by Jake Eagle
 
Research has proven that mindfulness improves well-being and reduces stress, anxiety, and pain. But for some, the practice itself feels challenging and inaccessible. That's where the A.W.E. Method comes in.
Reclaiming Your Community : You Don't Have to Move Out of Your Neighborhood to Live in a Better One

by Majora Carter
 
Retaining homegrown talent is a critical part of creating a strong local economy that can resist gentrification. But too many people born in low-status communities measure their success by how far away from them they can get. Carter, who could have been one of them, returned to the South Bronx and devised a development strategy rooted in the conviction that these communities have the resources within themselves to succeed.
Reconnecting After Isolation : Coping With Anxiety, Depression, Grief, PTSD, and More
 
by Susan J. Noonan
 
Although spending time alone for short periods may be restorative and helpful, unintentional or involuntary isolation can have profound detrimental effects on emotional and physical health. We all need social interaction and meaningful relationships in our lives to be well and thrive. Without them, we flounder.
The Second Mountain : the Quest for a Moral Life

by David Brooks
 
 Brooks explores the four commitments that define a life of meaning and purpose: to a spouse and family, to a vocation, to a philosophy or faith, and to a community. Our personal fulfillment depends on how well we choose and execute these commitments. 
Sisterhood Heals : the Transformative Power of Healing in Community

by Joy Harden Bradford
 
 Sisterhood is that sacred space where all the masks that are worn for the world fall off. It's the place where you lay down your load, refill your cup, and laugh until your belly aches. Our sister circles literally prolong our lives. However, building and keeping healthy friendships take work. 
 
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