Handley Regional Library System: Parent Hacks: Caregiving Styles

Caregiving Styles

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What Do All These Terms Mean?

You may have heard terms like "gentle parenting" or "permissive parenting" floating around caregiving circles. Here's a quick breakdown of some caregiving styles and what they mean for you and your family. It is important to remember that these are loose terms and may mean different things to different authors and people, and it's best to focus on the specifics when trying out strategies.

Gentle Parenting: This style focuses on emotional literacy, reduced or no rewards/punishments, and setting boundaries. Check out Punishment-Free Parenting for some gentle parenting tenets.

Lighthouse Parenting: This strategy is characterized by encourging independence, building problem-solving skills, and modeling consistent expectations. Read Kenneth Ginsburg's book, Lighthouse Parenting, that introduced the term.

The Montessori Method: This method, developed by Dr. Maria Montessori, focuses on the whole child, a child's inherent drive to learn, and "sensitive periods" of develpoment. Read Dr. Montessori's flagship book here!

Mindful Parenting: This style fuses the adult practice of mindfulness and meditation with everyday caregiving. Core components include meditation-like techniques (breathing, visualization), supporting the caregiver, and accepting emotions. Try mindful parenting with your baby with The Nuture Method.

This is not a comprehensive list! Check out #caregivingstyles in the catalog for even more books and styles- or keep reading for our selection.

Books about Caregiving Styles

Positive Discipline for Today's Busy (and Overwhelmed) Parent: How to Balance Work, Parenting, and Self for Lasting Well-Being
by Jane Nelsen

This targeted Positive Discipline guide gives parents the tools to parent effectively without sacrificing their well-being or giving up on their life goals. Instead of creating unachievable expectations, parents will learn how to play to their strengths at work and at home. Using wisdom based on the Positive Discipline philosophy, busy parents will be able to avoid pampering and keep permissive and punitive parenting at bay, fostering a happy, successful home life.

More Positive Discipline for: The First Three Years and Preschoolers

Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children
by Emily Edlynn

When our children feel out of control, problems big and small follow--from more tantrums in thwarted toddlers to a higher risk of drug and alcohol use in adolescence. So how do we support our children's autonomy while maintaining boundaries and not losing our minds in the process? From clinical psychologist Emily Edlynn, PhD, comes a flexible parenting framework that can apply to every family and every parental relationship.

Read the eBook on Hoopla!

The Scaffold Effect: Raising Resilient, Self-Reliant, and Secure Kids in an Age of Anxiety
by Harold S. Koplewicz

In Scaffold Parenting, world-renowned child psychiatrist Harold Koplewicz introduces the powerful new and clincially-tested idea that this deliberate build-up and then gradual loosening of parental support is the single most effective way to encourage kids to climb higher, try new things and grow from mistakes, and to develop character and strength.

Want something similar? Try Raising A Kid Who Can!

Please Yell at My Kids: What Cultures Around the World Can Teach You about Parenting in Community, Raising Independent Kids, and Not Losing Your Mind
by Marina Lopes

Parenting--and specifically motherhood--looks wildly different across nations. This book offers an around-the-world journey and a practical guide to rethinking parenting. What can we learn from Brazilian birth parties, Singaporean grandparents, and Danish babies sleeping soundly outside of coffee shops? And how can that be integrated into the lives of American readers? Journalist Marina Lopes travels around the globe, interviewing parents and caregivers to provide practical, actionable ways to change the way we view parenting in the United States.

Try more global caregivings styles with Hunt, Parent, Gather, or How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm.

Little Sprouts and the Dao of Parenting: Ancient Chinese Philosophy and the Art of Raising Mindful, Resilient, and Compassionate Kids
by Erin M. Cline

A practical parenting manual, philosophical reflection on the relationship between parent and child, and necessary response to modern stereotypes of Chinese parenting, Little Sprouts reconsiders cultural definitions of success and explores how we might support and nourish young people. Engaging deeply with foundational Daoist and Confucian thinkers, Georgetown philosopher Erin Cline offers accessible, provocative musings on key parenting issues-from family rituals to learning and vocation to challenges and disabilities-and helps us grow into better parents of joyful, fulfilled children.

Check out even more Mindful Parenting with Mindful New Mom.

Momma Cusses: A Field Guide to Responsive Parenting & Trying Not to Be the Reason Your Kid Needs Therapy (2024)
by Gwenna Laithland

A humorous field guide to responsive parenting and trying not to be the reason your kid needs therapy, by MAJOR TikTok star Gwenna Laithland.

Listen to the audiobook here!

Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience (2024) by Eli Harwood

Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience
by Eli Harwood

In an essential guide for parents with kids across the age spectrum, an attachment research expert shares what attachment theory is and provides a practical road map to the only parenting approach proven to have lasting positive impact.

Featuring chapters such as: "They Can Feel What We Don't Heal", "The Self-Confidence Recipe", and "Why Letting Go is Staying Close".

Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids
by Crystal Paine

The anxiety over messing up your kids is real. A mom of four, NYT bestselling author Crystal Paine shares her struggles in parenting and the life-changing lessons God has been teaching her about focusing on raising kids with love and grace instead of the expectation that she do everything right--and caring more about her kids' hearts than her reputation.

Read Crystal Paine's first book, Money-Making Mom!

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