He's not lazy : empowering your son to believe in himself /

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"Clinical psychologist Price offers one of the most significant books of the year in this new look at an old problem--the underperforming teenage boy... Price's book brings an important voice to a much needed conversation." -- Library Journal (Starred review)

On the surface, capable teenage boys may look lazy. But dig a little deeper, writes child psychologist Adam Price in He's Not Lazy , and you'll often find conflicted boys who want to do well in middle and high school but are afraid to fail, and so do not try. This book can help you become an ally with your son, as he discovers greater self-confidence and accepts responsibility for his future.

Table of contents provided by Syndetics

• Introduction (p. xi)
• Part I He's Not Lazy
• Chapter 1 Let Me Reintroduce You to Your Son (p. 3)
• Chapter 2 Shifting Bodies, Shitting Minds (p. 19)
• Chapter 3 If I Only Had a Brain (p. 47)
• Chapter 4 Leap Before You Look (p. 63)
• Chapter 5 Big Boys Don't Cry (p. 91)
• Chapter 6 Too Cool for School (p. 113)
• Part II From Conflict to Change: The Seeds of Motivation
• Chapter 7 The Paradoxical Response and the Plot for False Independence (p. 139)
• Chapter 8 Putting the Self Back in Self-Control (p. 147)
• Chapter 9 Autonomy-A New Way Forward (p. 155)
• Chapter 10 How to Stop Rescuing Your Son and Start Supporting His Autonomy (p. 167)
• Chapter 11 Helicopters, Lawn Mowers, and Drones: Why Parents Control Their Kids (p. 193)
• Chapter 12 I Think I Can (p. 209)
• Chapter 13 Connection (p. 223)
• Appendix:
• Homework Predictor (p. 231)
• Backward Planner (p. 232)
• The Decision Grid (p. 232)
• Exploring Values (p. 233)
• The Goal Setter (p. 234)
• Worry Log (p. 239)
• Thought Journal (p. 240)
• Suggested Reading (p. 241)
• Notes (p. 243)
• Acknowledgments (p. 257)
• About the Author (p. 261)
• Index (p. 263)

Reviews provided by Syndetics

Library Journal Review

Clinical psychologist Price offers one of the most significant books of the year in this new look at an old problem-the underperforming teenage boy. Many parents will relate to the dynamic of the "opt-out kid," who Price argues is, contrary to appearances, not lazy but rather "overcome by demands that he fears he simply cannot meet." These kids tend to fall into four categories: Mr. Oppositional, Mr. Do-It-For-Me, Mr. Popular, and Mr. Uncertain. Supporting three touchstones of masculinity (competence, control, and connection), the author then presents specific tips for striking a balance between giving your kid space and setting limits (e.g., stop taking the opt-out attitude personally, stop telling him how smart he is, etc.). With today's kids being pushed harder than ever to perform and succeed at an early age, Price's book brings an important voice to a much-needed conversation. VERDICT Highly recommended. © Copyright 2017. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

Publishers Weekly Review

Clinical psychologist Price maintains that increasingly competitive American society has fostered an epidemic of motivation-lacking teens and preteens, especially boys. His informative debut book focuses on those who "'opt-out' of the competition altogether" when they feel inadequate to meet the many demands placed on them. In the first section, he helps parents understand these boys' struggles by outlining how a variety of issues affect the way they act and feel, including their changing minds and bodies, their often-neglected emotions, and their learning styles. The second section provides tools, suggestions, and guidelines for setting parents and their teenage sons on a path to self-motivation. Price reinforces his theory with case studies, expert commentary, clinical research, and statistics, adding substance to this already instructive guide. Charts and tables peppered throughout visually highlight the statistics and examples he references, and an appendix features a series of planning worksheets for teenage boys and their parents. Price's book will provide inspiration for scores of parents seeking to understand why their sons are floundering, and will encourage greater acceptance for how today's teenage boys face challenges. (Aug.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

Booklist Review

Price addresses a situation he refers to as opting out, in which teen boys appear lazy when in fact they are reacting to fear and pressure by shunning school with avoidance and denial. Price offers examples, lessons, and advice from his 25 years as a psychologist. While the book is filled with well-documented research, it is accessible to general readers. Price helps readers make a paradigm shift in how they view their sons' behavior, explains the science behind human brain development, provides instructions for creating a plan for success, and most importantly, outlines how parents can change their own attitudes. The parents' change in perspective is the most important key; in the process, they will help their sons create self-sufficient, self-regulated plans. Parents, college students, teachers, and psychologists will gain a better understanding of the problem and know how to help teen boys who are going through it have a successful school career. A good addition for public library parenting collections as well as academic libraries.--McIntosh, Joyce Copyright 2017 Booklist

Author notes provided by Syndetics

Adam Price, PhD, a clinical psychologist and author, has worked with children, adolescents, and their families for more than 25 years. He is an expert in learning disabilities and Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD). Dr. Price lectures nationally to parents and educators, and has trained numerous clinicians in family and child therapy. He has written for both academic and popular publications, including the Wall Street Journal and Family Circle Magazine . Dr. Price maintains a private practice in New York City and Chatham, NJ. To learn more about Dr. Price, visit dradamprice.com.