Introduction: What this book is and what this book is not -- What is a co-parent? -- Not all co-parents are created equal -- What if you're a single parent? -- Row, row, row your boat -- The five essentials of parenting and co-parenting -- The child's experience of adult conflict -- A quick word about promises -- The myth of the nuclear family -- Scripting the change -- How to answer the kids' concerns: the power of we -- Creating a child-centered parenting plan: whose time is it anyway? -- The anatomy of a parenting plan -- Keeping in touch -- How children react -- What's an overwhelmed co-parent supposed to do? -- When children resist or refuse transition -- Sibling conflict and parallel process -- Introducing new partners and co-parents -- A dictionary of dilemmas.