WHAT DOESN'T KILL YOU
stress can find you
at home, at work, at play
 
 
Find ways to reduce stress, live better with the stress you can't eliminate, and how to tell the difference.
 
 
 
10% Happier : How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-help That Actually Works : a True Story

by Dan Harris

After his nationally televised panic attack, Harris went down the rabbit hole of self-help and spirituality quests.  His journey was a hilarious and deeply skeptical one, but in the end, he found a way to be ... 10% happier.  Which, as it turns out, was enough.
90 Seconds to a Life You Love : How to Master Your Difficult Feelings to Cultivate Lasting Confidence, Resilience, and Authenticity
 
by Joan I. Rosenberg

With over 30 years as a practicing psychologist, the author has found that what often blocks people from feeling successful and capable are eight negative emotions:  sadness, shame, helplessness, anger, embarrassment, disappointment, frustration, and vulnerability.  This book shows readers how to be aware of, and lean into these unpleasant emotions instead of repressing them.
Burnout : the Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

by Emily Nagoski

Women experience stress differently then men.  This book offers feminist solutions to every woman dealing with those times she has "felt overwhelmed and exhausted by everything she had to do, and yet still worried she was not doing enough."
Calm the F*ck Down : How to Control What You Can and Accept What You Can't So You Can Stop Freaking Out and Get on With Your Life

by Sarah Knight

For everyone who stays up at night worrying about their problems without ever finding solutions, who let unexpected roadblocks ruin their day, this book offers a no-f*cks-given guide to taming anxiety and taking back control of your life.
Digital Minimalism : Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World

by Cal Newport

The author felt that he, like many of us, had lost his humanity through "an endless bombardment of news and gossip and images (that) has rendered us manic information addicts".  This book offers tips on digtial de-cluttering, becoming connoisseurs of digital information, rather than ravenous omnivores.
 
Everything Isn't Terrible : Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down

by Kathleen Smith

Offers a smart, practical antidote to our anxiety-ridden times, and is an informative and practical guide -- featuring a healthy dose of humor -- for people who want to become beacons of calmness in their families, at work, and in our anxious world.
How to Do Nothing :  Resisting the Attention Economy

by Jenny Odell

In a world awash in information (and misinformation) and a constant barrage of overstimulating, ceaseless noise, Odell created an action plan of resistance.  Which was ... nothing. Refusing to engage can be a radical concept.
How to Hygge : the Nordic Secrets to a Happy Life

by Signe Johansen

Move over "French living", the Danes have arrived with their Hygge ("HYOO-ga") way of life that encourages a slow, stress-free mindset.  Cheerful self-care includes more candlelight and time with friends, fewer possessions -- and more boozy hot chocolate.
How We Work : Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind

by Leah Weiss

The author's Stanford Business School course "Leading with Mindfulness and Compassion" is always full, with a long waitlist.  Here, she distills the course into a "practical guide to bring our whole selves to our professional work".
Laziness Does Not Exist : a Defense of the Exhausted, Exploited, and Overworked

by Devon Price

A social psychologist uncovers the psychological basis of the "laziness lie," which originated with the Puritans and has ultimately created blurred boundaries between work and life with modern technologies and offers advice for not succumbing to societal pressure to "do more."
Mindfulness @ Work : Simple Meditations and Practices for a More Stress-free and Productive Working Life

by Anna Black
 
The author suggests short and simple meditations that can be used throughout the working day to strengthen focus and concentration, enhance working relationships, and improve empathy -- all of which help you to perform well and keep calm at work, whatever your job.
 
No Hard Feelings : the Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work

by Liz Fosslien

"Leave your emotions at home".  "Never let them see you sweat".  Most workplace advice centers around being a separate person at work than who you are at home.  Which, really, can anyone do that?   This book offers a common-sense guide to managing the emotions that come along with you to your job.
The Power of Agency : the 7 Principles to Conquer Obstacles, Make Effective Decisions, and Create a Life on Your Own Terms

by Paul Napper

In social science, "agency" is a term relating to the "capacity of individuals to act independently and to make their own free choices".  This book gives you the tools to help alleviate anxiety, manage competing demands, and "live your version of success".
 
The Power of When : Discover Your Chronotype -- and the Best Time to Eat Lunch, Ask For a Raise, Have Sex, Write a Novel, Take Your Meds, and More

by Michael Breus

Maybe you know what you need to do.  You even know how to do it all.  But if you are still running behind, and leaving things undone, maybe you need to focus on when to do things. This book will help you find your chronotype -- your biological and hormonal makeup that tells you when you are ready to do what needs to be done.
Presence : Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges

by Amy Joy Casselberry Cuddy

For anyone who has ever kicked themselves after botched job interviews,  second-guessed decisions, or choked during difficult interactions, the result is often regret and a wish for a "do-over".   The author believes that anyone can achieve "presence" - a physical, bodily manifestation of confidence, which allows us to "face our challenges without anxiety".
 
The Sweet Spot : How to Find Your Groove at Home and Work

by Christine Carter

Carter, a "happiness expert" at UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center road-tested every research-based tactic promising to make life easier.  In this book, she distills the combination of practices that changed her life from overwhelmed and exhausting to joyful, relaxed, and productive.
Under Pressure : Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls

by Lisa Damour

Research finds that the number of girls who said that they often felt nervous, worried, or fearful jumped 55 percent from 2009 to 2014, while the comparable number for adolescent boys has remained unchanged.  This book is for girls, their parents, or anyone who comes into regular contact with teenagers.  It discusses when stress is healthy, when it's not, and how to deal with all of it.
 
Unwinding Anxiety : New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind
by Judson Brewer

We think of anxiety as everything from mild unease to full-blown panic. But it's also what drives the addictive behaviors and bad habits we use to cope (e.g. stress eating, procrastination, doom scrolling and social media). Plus, anxiety lives in a part of the brain that resists rational thought. So we get stuck in anxiety habit loops that we can't think our way out of or use willpower to overcome
The Upside of Stress:  Why Stress is Good for You, and How to Get Good at it
by Kelly McGonigal

Make stress work for us instead of against us?  This book highlights new research indicating that stress can, in fact, make us stronger, smarter, and happier--if we learn how to embrace it.  
Welcome to the United States of Anxiety : Observations From a Reforming Neurotic
by Jen Lancaster

 Every day, Americans are bombarded with terrifying news about crime, the environment, politics, and the health consequences of the foods we've been enjoying for years. Our collective FOMO (fear of missing out), and the disparity between ideals and reality, is leading us to spend more and feel worse. With wit and wisdom, the author charts a path out of the quagmire that keeps us frightened and ashamed.