The lonely century : how to restore human connection in a world that's pulling apart

Title:

The lonely century : how to restore human connection in a world that's pulling apart

Author:

Hertz, Noreena

ISBN:

9780593135839

Physical Description:

368 pages ; 25 cm

Summary:

"An economist takes on the most urgent social issue of our time, exploring the evolution of the global loneliness crisis, the sweeping impact of social isolation during the coronavirus, and the opportunities a post-Covid world presents to reverse these trends-by finding new ways to reconnect with each other, our communities, and even our democracy. Even before the global pandemic brought terms like "social distancing" into the vernacular, loneliness was well on its way to becoming the defining trait of the twenty-first century. Today, nearly half of adults in the United States report feeling lonely, and more than twenty percent of millennials say they have "no friends at all." All around us, the fabric of community is unraveling. And technology isn't the lone culprit. Rather, the crisis stems from the dismantling of civic institutions, the radical reorganization of the workplace, mass urban migration, and decades of neoliberal policies that placed self-interest above the collective good. On one hand, the prolonged period spent under lockdown has accelerated these trends: from remote work to contactless commerce to the hollowing out of shared public spaces. On the other, it has sharpened our awareness of the toll isolation takes on our families, our communities, and our mental health. This is not merely a mental health crisis. Loneliness increases our risk of heart disease, cancer, and dementia. Statistically, it's as bad for our health as smoking fifteen cigarettes a day. It's also an economic crisis, costing us billions annually. And it's a political crisis, as feelings of marginalization fuel divisiveness and extremism around the world. In The Lonely Century, readers accompany Hertz as she "rents a friend" in Manhattan, attends a "how to read a face" class at an Ivy League university, and meets Japanese nursing home residents who knit bonnets for their robot caregivers. Along the way, she urges us to ask ourselves what kind of world we want to create, post-pandemic: one where we retreat further into our self-isolating bubbles and remain ever-fearful of others, or one where we are more committed to reconnecting with one another, and with the democratic process itself. From compassionate AI to new models for urban living to the ingenuity unleashed in finding new ways to stay connected in the era of social distancing, The Lonely Century offers a hopeful vision for how to heal our fractured communities and restore connection in our lives. In the wake of Covid-19, this is not only more urgent, but more possible than ever"--

Subject:

Loneliness -- Social aspects.

Loneliness -- Psychological aspects.

Social media -- Influence.

Interpersonal relations

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A bold, hopeful, and thought-provoking account by "one of the world's leading thinkers" ( The Observer ) of how we built a lonely world, how the pandemic accelerated the problem, and what we must do to come together again

"A compelling vision for how we can bridge our many divides at this time of great change and disruption."--Arianna Huffington, founder and CEO of Thrive Global

"An important new book."-- The Economist

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Loneliness has become the defining condition of the twenty-first century. It is damaging our health, our wealth, and our happiness and even threatening our democracy. Never has it been more pervasive or more widespread, but never has there been more that we can do about it.

Even before a global pandemic introduced us to terms like "social distancing," the fabric of community was unraveling and our personal relationships were under threat. And technology isn't the sole culprit. Equally to blame are the dismantling of civic institutions, the radical reorganization of the workplace, the mass migration to cities, and decades of neoliberal policies that have placed self-interest above the collective good.

This is not merely a mental health crisis. Loneliness increases our risk of heart disease, cancer, and dementia. Statistically, it's as bad for our health as smoking fifteen cigarettes a day. It's also an economic crisis, costing us billions annually. And it's a political crisis, as feelings of marginalization fuel divisiveness and extremism around the world. But it's also a crisis we have the power to solve.

Combining a decade of research with firsthand reporting, Noreena Hertz takes us from a "how to read a face" class at an Ivy League university to isolated remote workers in London during lockdown, from "renting a friend" in Manhattan to nursing home residents knitting bonnets for their robot caregivers in Japan.

Offering bold solutions ranging from compassionate AI to innovative models for urban living to new ways of reinvigorating our neighborhoods and reconciling our differences, The Lonely Century offers a hopeful and empowering vision for how to heal our fractured communities and restore connection in our lives.

Author Notes

Noreena Hertz is a renowned thought leader, academic, and broadcaster who was named by The Observer "one of the world's leading thinkers" and by Vogue "one of the world's most inspiring women." Her previous bestsellers-- The Silent Takeover, The Debt Threat, and Eyes Wide Open --have been published in more than twenty countries, and her opinion pieces have appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, The Guardian, and Financial Times . She has hosted her own show on SiriusXM and spoken at TED, the World Economic Forum in Davos, and Google Zeitgeist. Hertz holds an MBA from the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania and a PhD from Cambridge University and is based at University College London, where she holds an honorary professorship.

Reviews (3)

Publisher's Weekly Review

Economist Hertz (Generation K) explores how to solve "today's loneliness crisis" in this thought-provoking yet scattershot account. Modern-day loneliness, according to Hertz, "incorporates how disconnected we feel from politicians and politics, how cut off we feel from our work and our workplace, how excluded many of us feel from society's gains, and how powerless, invisible and voiceless so many of us feel ourselves to be." She notes that 20% of U.S. millennials "say they have no friends at all," and shares evidence that Japanese senior citizens are committing crimes in order to find companionship, care, and support in prison. Blaming digital technology, urbanization, and neoliberal economic policies that widened the wealth gap and weakened government protections, Hertz examines the links between loneliness and physical illness, right-wing politics, and the rise of workplace surveillance technologies. Her solutions include stabilizing rental costs so people can establish roots in their communities, investing in public spaces, and "reinstituting a formal lunch break" so workers can "break bread together." Hertz touches on many important issues, but explores few of them in-depth, and doesn't fully address how cultural and geographic differences might impact perceptions of loneliness around the world. This intermittently intriguing analysis needs a sharper focus. (Feb.)

Kirkus Review

An economist and business adviser delves into "the ideological underpinnings of the twenty-first century's loneliness crisis." As Hertz notes, we live in a predominantly lonely world, a condition exacerbated by ever increasing social and economic inequality. When people feel they have only themselves to fall back on--lacking support from employers, the government, or our communities--is it any wonder that loneliness is the result? The situation is so bad that in 2018, the U.K. appointed a Minister of Loneliness for the disconnected, and the elderly in Japan are known to commit petty crimes in order to go to jail, "a sanctuary that provides not only company but also support and care." With plenty of anecdotes and scholarly referenced footnotes, the author meticulously picks apart our everyday world to reveal the many wellsprings of our loneliness, and she points to helpful first steps to deal with it. The trick, writes Hertz, is "to reconnect capitalism to the pursuit of the common good and put care, compassion and cooperation at its very heart." Of course, that is quite the undertaking; some readers may even consider it impossible, but many will find some comfort in these pages. Hertz diligently scrolls through the many causes of our existential conundrum, including living alone, the bustle of big-city life ("when confronted with all those people our default is often to withdraw"), contactless commerce, smartphone addiction, openly aggressive urban planning, the surveillance workplace, and a government that fails to prioritize libraries, parks, playgrounds, and community centers. Hertz also touches on the alienation of artificial intelligence and the downsides of co-living spaces, and she offer curative suggestions along the way--e.g., redefining work to deliver not just a salary, but "meaning, purpose, camaraderie and support"; committing to public service; and transforming ourselves "from consumers to citizens, from takers to givers, from casual observers to active participants." An alternately dispiriting and bracing dissection of loneliness and how to build community from the ground up. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

Booklist Review

We are all travelers in what economist Hertz labels the "lonely century." She traces the origin of our troubles to the dawn of neoliberalism, particularly its predatory capitalism, in the 1980s. The devastating impacts of this economic theory, focusing on the now-pervasive gospels of individualism and profit, have been recently amplified by the COVID-19 pandemic. Citing copious research, she addresses the existential problem of loneliness, exploring key causes, urgent dangers, and possible solutions. She humanizes her thesis with stories from people of various ages worldwide, living isolated lives, addicted to our screens, alienated and surveilled at work-you-to-death jobs that are increasingly threatened by the rise of artificial intelligence. Perhaps most ominously, she posits loneliness as a root of right-wing populism and a fault line for democracy. But the current pandemic presents a potential silver lining: the opportunity for a paradigm shift. Citizens, government leaders, and corporations can choose to redefine relationships centered on the values of solidarity, community, and togetherness, to build a more cooperative and kinder form of capitalism.

Excerpts

Chapter 1 This Is the Lonely Century Curled up against him, my chest pressing against his back, our breathing synchronized, our feet intertwined. This is how we have slept for over five thousand nights. But now we sleep in different rooms. By day we dance the two-meter zigzag. Hugs, caresses, kisses, our daily shorthand, now forbidden, "Stay away from me" my new term of endearment. Constantly coughing, feeling achy and unwell, I am terrified that if I get too close to my husband I will infect him. So I keep my distance. This is March 31, 2020, and along with 2.5 billion other people, a third of the world's population, my household is in lockdown. With so many people stuck at home, condemned to working remotely (if one still has a job, that is), not allowed to visit friends or loved ones, getting outside once a day if at all, "socially distancing," "quarantining," and "self-isolating," it is inevitable that feelings of loneliness and isolation have soared. Yet the Lonely Century did not begin in the first quarter of 2020. By the time the pandemic struck, many of us had already been feeling lonely, isolated, and atomized for a considerable amount of time. Why we became so lonely and what we must do to reconnect are what this book is about. Pretty in Pink September 24, 2019. I am waiting, seated at the window, my back against the pretty-in-pink wall. My phone pings. It's Brittany--she's running a few minutes late. "No worries," I message back. "Cool choice of place." And it is. The effortlessly beautiful, gazellelike clientele, with their fashion-model portfolios under their arms, hint at just how hip Cha Cha Matcha in Manhattan's NoHo district feels. A few beats later, she arrives. Long-limbed, athletic, she scans the room, her smile widening as I come into her gaze. "Hey, love your dress," she says. For forty dollars an hour, I'd expect no less. For Brittany is the "friend" I have rented for the afternoon from a company called RentAFriend. Founded by New Jersey entrepreneur Scott Rosenbaum, who had seen the concept take off in Japan, and now operating in dozens of countries around the world, the company offers over 620,000 platonic friends for hire online. This wasn't the career path Brittany, a twenty-three-year-old small-town Floridian, had intended when she won her place at Brown. Yet, having been unable to secure a job in environmental science (the subject she majored in at university) and anxious about her levels of student debt, she explains her decision to rent out her company as a pragmatic one, her emotional labor as just another monetizable string to her bow. When she's not renting herself out--on average she does so a few times a week--she helps start-ups with their social media postings and offers executive assistant services via TaskRabbit. Before we met up I was pretty nervous, not sure if friend was covert speak for sexual partner, or even if I'd recognize her from her profile picture. But within minutes I feel reassured that this is friends-without-benefits territory. And over the next few hours, as we wander around downtown Manhattan chatting about #MeToo, her heroine Ruth Bader Ginsburg, and, at McNally Jackson, our favorite books, at times I even forget I am paying for Brittany's company. Although she doesn't feel like an old friend, she does feel like a fun new prospect. But it is at Urban Outfitters on Broadway that she really ramps up the charm, just as the meter on our encounter begins to run out. Smile now perma-fixed, banter upped, she joshes with me as we rummage through a pile of T-shirts and gamely joins me in trying on Crayola-colored bucket hats. Apparently they really suit me. Although presumably she would tell me that whether it was true or not. I ask Brittany about the others who've hired her, my fellow friendship-consumers. She tells me of the soft-spoken woman who didn't want to show up at a party alone; the techie from Delhi who had moved to Manhattan for work, didn't know anyone in town, and wanted company at dinner; the banker who offered to come over with chicken soup when she was sick. If you had to sum up your typical clientele, what would you say, I ask her. Her answer: "Lonely, thirty-to-forty-year-old professionals. The kind of people who work long hours and don't seem to have time to make many friends." It's a sign of our times that today I can order companionship as easily as I can a cheeseburger with just a few taps on my phone, that what I call a Loneliness Economy has emerged to support--and in some cases exploit--those who feel alone. But in the twenty-first century, the loneliest century we have known, Brittany's overworked professionals are not the only ones suffering; the tentacles of loneliness reach much further. Even before the pandemic triggered a "social recession" with its toxification of face-to-face contact, three in five U.S. adults considered themselves lonely. In Europe, it was a similar story. In Germany, two-thirds of the population believed loneliness to be a serious problem. Almost a third of Dutch nationals admitted to being lonely, one in ten severely so. In Sweden, up to a quarter of the population said that they were frequently lonely. In Switzerland, two out of every five people reported sometimes, often, or always feeling so. In the United Kingdom, the problem had become so significant that in 2018 the prime minister went so far as to appoint a Minister for Loneliness. One in eight Brits did not have even a single close friend they could rely on, up from one in ten just five years before. The data for Asia, Australia, South America, and Africa was similarly troubling. Inevitably, months of lockdowns, self-isolation, and social distancing have made this problem even worse. Young and old, male and female, single and married, rich and poor. All over the world people are feeling lonely, disconnected, and alienated. We are in the midst of a global loneliness crisis. None of us, anywhere, is immune. This isn't just a mental health crisis. It's a crisis that's making us physically ill. The research shows that loneliness is worse for our health than not exercising, as harmful as being an alcoholic, and twice as harmful as being obese. Statistically, loneliness is equivalent to smoking fifteen cigarettes a day. Crucially, this is regardless of what we earn, our gender, age, or nationality. It's also an economic crisis. Even prior to the pandemic in the United States, social isolation was estimated to cost Medicare nearly $7 billion every year, more than it spends on arthritis and almost as much as it does on high blood pressure--and that's just among elderly people. Meanwhile, U.K. employers were losing £800 million ($994 million) each year due to loneliness-related sick days, significantly more when productivity losses were also taken into account. And it's a political crisis too, fueling divisiveness and extremism in the United States, Europe, and across the globe. Loneliness and right-wing populism are, as we will see, close bedfellows. This state of affairs didn't just happen by chance. Nor did it emerge overnight. The way we now live, the changing nature of work, the changing nature of relationships, the way our cities are now built and our offices designed, the way we treat each other and the way our government treats us, our smartphone addiction, and even the way we now love are all contributing to how lonely we have become. The purpose of this book isn't solely to articulate the scale of the loneliness crisis in the twenty-first century, how we got here, and the ways that it will get worse if we do nothing to respond. It is also a call for action. To governments and business, for sure--loneliness has clear structural drivers that they must address. But also to each of us as individuals. Because society isn't only done to us, we "do" society too, we participate in it and shape it. So if we want to stop the destructive path of loneliness and restore the sense of community and cohesion we have lost, we will need to acknowledge that there are steps we must take, as well as tradeoffs we will have to make--between individualism and collectivism, between self-interest and societal good, between anonymity and familiarity, between convenience and caring, between what is right for the self and what is best for the community, between liberty and fraternity. The recognition that each of us has a critical role to play in mitigating the loneliness crisis is central to this book. Reconnecting society cannot only be a top-down initiative driven by governments, institutions, and big business, even if the process of disconnecting society largely was. So throughout the book I will be including ideas, thoughts, and examples of what we can do to counter the current trajectory of divisiveness, isolation, and loneliness, not only on a political and economic level but on a personal one as well. This is the Lonely Century, but it doesn't have to be so. The future is in our hands. Excerpted from The Lonely Century: How to Restore Human Connection in a World That's Pulling Apart by Noreena Hertz All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.