Healing from toxic relationships : 10 essential steps to recover from gaslighting, narcissism, and emotional abuse

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Personal Author:

Sarkis, Stephanie

Edition:

First edition.

Physical Description:

xvi, 249 pages ; 23 cm

Summary:

This guide for getting over a toxic relationship looks at the Ten Foundational Steps to True Healing that can help survivors move forward, stop blaming themselves and find peace.

Contents:

How did we get here?: What a toxic relationship looks like and how to identify toxic people -- Block contact if you can: How to prevent unwanted contact from a toxic person, and what to do when you can't -- (For)get closure: Why it's hard to find resolution after a toxic relationship, and how to move on without it -- Forgive yourself: How to let go of anger and self-blame -- Establish boundaries: How to protect your interests and put yourself first -- Talk to a professional: How to find and work with a mental health care provider -- Practice self-care: How to make sure your needs are met and build care into your daily routine -- Reconnect: How to rebuild relationships with emotionally healthy people -- Grieve: How to work through loss so you can heal -- Volunteer: How to reclaim your purpose through altruism -- Prevent: How to avoid toxic situations and set yourself up for healthy relationships -- You will heal.

Subject Term:

Interpersonal conflict

Interpersonal relations

Manipulative behavior

Narcissism

Psychological abuse

Publication Info:

New York : Hachette Go, 2022.

Subject:

Interpersonal conflict

Interpersonal relations

Manipulative behavior

Narcissism

Psychological abuse

Conflict, Interpersonal

Human relations

Interpersonal relationships

Personal relations

Relations, Interpersonal

Relationships, Interpersonal

Social behavior

Behavior, Manipulative

Manipulation (Psychology)

Ego erotism

Erotism, Ego

Narcism

Abuse, Emotional

Abuse, Psychological

Emotional abuse

SAILS ISBN:

9780306847257

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From the psychologist and author of Gaslighting comes a practical recovery plan outlining ten foundational steps to true healing.

Surviving and escaping a toxic or abusive relationship can often only be part of the struggle. Long after, survivors often struggle to heal; your self‑esteem may be damaged, you may feel rage and betrayal, and you may punish and/or blame yourself. The author of Gaslighting and specialist in toxic behavior, narcissistic abuse, and personality disorders, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis has seen it all--and she is here to help you understand how to move forward. In Healing from Toxic Relationships , Dr. Sarkis extends compassion and knowledge to survivors, helping you understand the underpinnings of toxic behavior and how to find peace.

Highlighting ten essential steps, Dr. Sarkis provides survivors with an accessible framework that can be applied to anyone preparing to heal:

1. Block or Limit Contact

2. Create Your Own Closure

3. Forgive Yourself

4. Establish Boundaries

5. Talk to a Professional

6. Practice Self‑Care

7. Reconnect

8. Grieve

9. Look Outward

10. Prevent: Keeping Toxic People Away

Anyone who is in a toxic relationship--whether it's with a romantic partner, colleague, family member, or friend--deserves a way out and a path forward. Dr. Sarkis offers help and hope.

Reviews (1)

Publisher's Weekly Review

This compassionate manual by psychotherapist Sarkis (Gaslighting) tackles toxic behavior and shares sensible strategies for grappling with it. The author lays out a 10-step plan for dealing with toxic relationships, romantic or otherwise, and details how to avoid unwanted contact, stop blaming oneself, and find resolution. The first step is to "identify toxic people," and to that end Sarkis lists red flag behaviors ("pathological lying," "refusal to respect boundaries") and outlines the "three stages of a toxic relationship," during which abusers "idealize, devalue, and discard" others. Emphasizing the importance of finding a mental health care provider (step six), Sarkis details the most common kinds of therapy approaches (cognitive-behavioral, dialectical behavior, solution-focused, and acceptance and commitment) and reminds readers that "you get out of therapy what you put into it." Journal prompts stimulate reflection on the personal impact of abuse; for example, the author encourages readers to write about the origins of their self-criticism and find a positive way to reframe those thoughts. Readers will appreciate the practicality of the guide, which distills its insights into easily digestible enumerated lists (e.g., the five types of boundaries, the six strategies for addressing insecure attachment styles) and detailed "check-ins" that help with self-assessment of such questions as "Do you have anger control issues?" and "Is your relationship codependent?" The result is a thorough program for healing from abuse. (July)

Introduction	p. ix
1 How Did We Get Here?	p. 1
What a Toxic Relationship Looks Like and How to Identify Toxic People
2 Block Contact if You Can	p. 23
How to Prevent Unwanted Contact from a Toxic Person, and What to Do When You Can't
3 (For)get Closure	p. 41
Why It's Hard to Find Resolution After a Toxic Relationship, and How to Move On Without It
4 Forgive Yourself	p. 57
How to Let Go of Anger and Self-Blame
5 Establish Boundaries	p. 75
How to Protect Your Interests and Put Yourself First
6 Talk to a Professional	p. 101
How to Find and Work with a Mental Health Care Provider
7 Practice Self-Care	p. 123
How to Make Sure Your Needs Are Met and Build Care into Your Daily Routine
8 Reconnect	p. 141
How to Rebuild Relationships with Emotionally Healthy People
9 Grieve	p. 159
How to Work Through Loss So You Can Heal
10 Volunteer	p. 175
How to Reclaim Your Purpose Through Altruism
11 Prevent	p. 191
How to Avoid Toxic Situations and Set Yourself Up for Healthy Relationships
You Will Heal	p. 211
Acknowledgments	p. 217
Resources	p. 219
Glossary	p. 225
Notes	p. 231
Index	p. 235

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